Romance

Are you single and looking for romance? Are you looking and looking and not finding that special someone? Well, from my experience, if you go from one extreme to another, eventually you will come back to the center and meet your match there.  Let me explain.

Basically, you have at least two options: You can look somewhere new for romance, or you can stop looking all together.

Option number one: If romance eludes you, it is a good idea to start by looking somewhere new. For instance, if you have not tried online dating, then I suggest you try it. If you have over-tried online dating, then I suggest you get out in the 3d world more. Take more classes, go to more parties, or get involved in something community oriented that interests you.  If you have not asked your friends to keep their eyes peeled, then I suggest you do that.

You can also change your approach to relating and finding romance. If you talk a lot during conversations, try listening more instead. If you do not make much eye contact, trying making more visual contact instead. If you wear boring clothes, try spicing up your appearance a bit.

It ahs been said that if you keep doing what you have always been doing, you will keep getting what you have always been getting. So, explore the extremes! Go from one end of the spectrum to the other end, and you may find new and fun interactions, as well as new dates coming your way.

Now, let us say you have tried all that. You have tried looking here, and you have tried looking there, but still, romance and relationship eludes you. You are fed up with the search. Life sucks.

Then your only option is to take a break from searching. It happens when you are not looking for it, right? Isn't that what they all say? Well, it is true!

"Easier said than done" you say. "How am I supposed to stop looking for that special someone?"

It can be done.  Give it time. You do it by getting involved in things that you are passionate about. Simply put: do what you love. Have more fun, in the meantime.

As you do this, it is not that you are truly trying to forget about the possibility of romance, it is just that you are trying to live life more fully giving your current situation. Put all your heart into doing the things you enjoy. This does not mean you have given up on finding romance. It just means you have "given up" the intense need for a relationship. Do what you love, and the romance will follow.